When Shitty Things Happen To You

We had the best weekend! Until we didn't.

In a short 24 hour period we swam in warm lakes, got sunburned in a great way, giggled endlessly with the nieces, shared beautiful, delicious meals, endured a car break-in costing $600+ and a torn rotator cuff with an estimated two month recovery period.

Talk about a 180 🥴

You wanna know what's different about this 180 though? The fact that after shit hit the fan, I didn't go, “Yeah, see? I knew life was too good to be true. I knew the other shoe would drop. I knew I didn't deserve that level of happiness. Of course shit hit the fan. Of course I'd be punished.” 

 Shitty Things Don’t Mean You’re Stuck

That's the kind of shit I used to say to myself. I used to use crappy things happening in my life as a way to justify the ‘fact’ that I didn't deserve immense joy and happiness.

I used to use it as a way to feel sorry for myself. I used to use shitty things happening as a way to keep myself stuck at a ‘familiar happiness.’ Talk about self sabotage! 

 We Can Always Choose …

Now I know I have a choice. 1) I can choose to use shitty life experiences as ‘proof’ that I don't deserve happiness or 2) I can choose to know that shitty life experiences happen and those things do not determine how much happiness I can handle or deserve. 

It's taken me a minute, but I'm starting to see how this experience is asking me to expand into a joy I wasn't familiar with before.

In the midst of tears, wardrobe malfunctions and ponytail mishaps, I've been shown how capable I am of asking for and receiving help (bliss), who I am without doing all the things (worthy) and the gracious patience and compassion that come with healing (miraculous). 

 Now, there's even more joy than there was before.

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